Ever since I got back from USA, I
catch myself often thinking -What is wrong with people in my hometown? How they
can be happy with the mentality of standing in one place for more than 20
years? And if they are not happy, why they are not doing anything to make a change?
I get it.. We, Montenegrins are very proud of our national history, getting
independence etc. Yet, it is not good living in the past. We need to move
forward. I see it way too often through Podgorica, just walking around or even
talking to people, how they are not happy with current state of affairs, yet
they don’t want to do anything. Just sit and complain. Complain how everything
is mom`s fault, teacher`s fault, government`s fault, ultimately America is
guilty.. That song is way too overplayed and still it is kind of evergreen – we
all know it and repeat it day by day. The biggest excuse I hear from people is
that this is small country and small town.. Monaco is small, and look where
Monaco is (on the world map and social development map). One of the precious
things I learnt in the USA is that your actions and aspiration can reach a goal
and change something. And ever since I got back, I tried empowering people,
shared my stories and experience, hoping to affect someone to join me and make
something better. And everyone get enthusiastic, but when it comes to action
they all stand aside and criticize. This is not small environment problem. It’s
a first, second and third world problem for Montenegro. I am used to getting a lot of hatred and
conspiracy theories about my love for America. And what I want to say is that
country has great examples of self initiative and value of community service. I
believe that’s the model we should try applying here. And what Montenegro
really needs is some serious gender and politics attention, and girls and women
empowerment.
Its easy to complain how bad we are on social ladder. We could be Pakistan, Kazakhstan or any of the "stan company countries" that suffer poverty, war, lack of female inclusion and lack of natural and human resources. We have all the good things and advantages which we like to sell to mostly Russians, but to anyone who offers a good price. And where is women rights and national pride in all of that. Yes, we are ecological,beautiful country. But lets get real - Podgorica and Montenegro are full of hypocrisy , false representation , nepotism , cell phones and Chinese copies of various brands. Its time that someone , I mean all of us say ITS ENOUGH.
With all
due respect to female NGO sector in Montenegro, we need serious empowerment and
education of female members, not just performances that include foreign and
domestic politics issues, goats, blood and similar stupidity. I mean, I can
totally take a goat in government building, make a fool out of myself and cause
NO POSITIVE change. Similar to Martin Luther King, I have a dream that my
beautiful country and hometown will become a great, developed place, where
young people can use their potentials and where there is some sort of future
and opportunities. I want nepotism and corruption to be put to minimum. And I
am ready to devote myself to that dream, but not to be taken for granted or
just like MLK , to be shot, killed or something.
Starting
from the family law of Montenegro, to every day situation girls and women lack
legal protection, respect and recognition. But most of all they lack education,
aspiration and empowerment. Shift from communism to democracy allowed negative
impact such as materialization of everything, especially values, self
confidence and way of thinking. What can you expect from one society where most
of the girls only cares about how will they look, do they have Louis Vuiton ,
fancy make up, how to copy celebrity styles.. Walking around my hometown I see
all sorts of Blair Waldorf wanna-be, Jelena-Karlesa wanna-be and its sad.. Why
no one looks up to Ellenor Roosevelt, Indira Ghandi and bunch of other great
exemples… And as long as outfit, I wish they heard Macklemore singing “50dollars for a T shirt, that’s just some
ignorant sh*t”.. I know we all want
to look well and live well, but golddigging and putting yourself way too much may
help you get a rich husband, but if you raise kids to do the same way, its
social decline for another 50years.
I am not
suggesting some puritan Scarlet Letter methods, where girls should wear scarlet
“A” for adultery and moral sins (I believe scarlet would be the trendiest color
of the season in that case) but just calling for implementation of some morals,
girls and women turning to how they behave, how to be lady like, how to get
more knowledge and become more social activists, not just gossip, try to look
like a celebrity and try to have hair and style like Rihanna, Katty Perry or
something.
WHY DO
WE NEED TO FIX THIS? Because it is just wrong to see females older than 40
trying to dress up and look like they are 20… Simply because they are not 20
anymore. Or girls who choose money over education, golddigging instead of hard
working and empowerment and , picking guys just because of the cars, bank
accounts , etc..
Or we
can just leave things like they are, and see our lovely county sinks in Chinese
copies of fashion brands, stupidity and girls falling on heels, trying to make
a wrong impression. Indeed I have a dream that all of this will change.. But I
am not ready to die to change this. Stupidity goes to infinity and beyond. And
to all of fellows who agree with me and want to change something, I can only
say : MAY THE FORCE BE WITH US.
Danka for the President :D !
ReplyDeleteNah, aint nobody have time for dat :D
DeleteNisam bas siguran koliko se slazem sa ovim tekstom. Ja ne vidim nista lose u tome sto je neka djevojka(ili momak) “gold digger”. Pa sta ako jeste? To je njen/njegov licni izbor i ako nista drugo, mi to treba samo da postujemo. Ne znam zasto je to toliko lose. Mislim, to je isto kao kad neko izabere da bude roditelj. To je neciji izbor, takodje. Pa sad ja, koji ne volim djecu, mogu odmah da kazem da su ti ljudi glupi ili manje vrijedni, zar ne? Svako ima pravo da izabere sta je za njega najbolje. Sve je u redu do god neko nekoga ne ugrozava (bilo to fizicki ili mentalno).
ReplyDeleteIsto tako nisam bas siguran o kojim je to moralnim vrijednostima danas rijec u CG. Sta je moral je vrlo diskutabilno - ono sto je moralno za tebe ne mora da znaci da je i za mene i obratno (na primjer: u Saudijskoj Arabiji je nemoralno da se momak i djevojka drze za ruke na ulici).
Dalje, sta je problem u tome sto se neke djevojke (ili momci) ugledaju na Bler Voldorf? Koliko ja znam to je glavna glumica u jednoj od najgledanijih serija ne samo u CG vec i u SAD i UK ( u Meksiku je cak snimljena lokalna verzija ove serije) pa ne vidim da sada nesto britanci i amerikanci posebno pate zbor toga. Kakve to veze ima sa trenutnim stanjem u CG? Mislim, sta hoces da kaze? Da ako neko gleda seriju za koju mi smatramo da nije dobra, da je taj neko odmah manje vrijedan, manje inteligentan ili cak, glup?
Naravno da podrzavam svaku inicijativu (bilo zensku bilo neku drugu) da se poboljsa situacija u CG ali ne tako sto ce se omalovazavati neciji izbori. Svi ovi ljudi koji su pomenuti u tvom tekstu su na poseban nacin uticali na odredjene grupe ljudi(neki i na vise grupa ljudi). Ali koliko god oni na prvi pogleda izgledali razlicito, u sustini i nisu toliko. Svi se oni zalazu za mir u svijetu, poboljsanje standarda u ugrozenim zemljama, podrzavaju humanitarne akcije, zalazu se za jedna prava svih ljudi. I ja ne vidim neki veliki problem u tome sto neko podrzava Rijanu, Kejti Peri ili Karleusu(drugo je to da li se oni meni licno svidjaju). Problem bi bio da je umjesto Karleuse stavljena Svetlana Raznjatovic (ratni zlocinac) i to ne zbog muzike koju one izvode, vec zbog nedjela koje je ova druga pocinila.
Na kraju, zaista ne vidim u cemu je problem hoce li neko da nosi majcu od 20€ ili od 200€, ako moze sebi da je priusti. Jednako moze da doprinese poboljsanju ovoga drustva svako ko to iskreno zeli i vjeruje u to. A sada kako je on obucen, ili kakvu seriju gleda je potpuno irelevantno.
O zaboga, pa naravno da imamo problem ako nam se mladi narastaji loze na Karleusu i Bler. Kakave su njih dvije osobe privatno, to je nebitno, bitno je sta one reprezentuju u medijima. Sta postaju curice ako im se konzumacija droga, promiskuitet i makijavelizam serviraju kao sasvim normalne, cak stavise vrlo pozeljne stvari?
ReplyDeleteKoko to mislite "Kakave su njih dvije osobe privatno, to je nebitno, bitno je sta one reprezentuju u medijima"? Sta Vam ovo znaci uopste? Ako mediji objave za nekoga da je lopov, kriminalac, "sponzorusa", narkoman ili sta vec odmah to uzimamo kao zdravo za gotovo? Prvo ne dovodimo uopste u pitanje da li je ta vijest istinita? ko je vlasnik tih medija? ko je glavni urednik u tim medijima? drugo, mi sami ne mozemo da imamo neko sopstveno misljenje koje je drugacije malo od onoga sto nam "mediji" serviraju. Zar ne treba malo da i mi ukljucimo mozak?
DeleteNaravno da je najbitnije kakav je neko covjek a NE KAKO GA MEDIJI PREDSTAVLJAJU. Ko vjeruje samo medijima(pogotovo ovim nasim) i ne koristi svoj mozak onda mu taj mozak i ne treba.
a sto se tice ovoga serviranja "konzumacije droge i promiskuiteta kao normalnog" opet se vracam: ko to servira? nisu valjda to isti oni mediji ciji je stav "jedino bitan"?